I think someone I know is harming themselves. What can I do?
Some people may cut or burn themselves, often as a way of dealing with emotional pain. This self-harming can become a habit, and the more it happens, the harder it is for them to stop. Self-harm is usually a very private thing, which they do when no-one else is around. Yet it is also a cry for help.
You can help by connecting the person to the right support services. Please refer to the options listed to the right of this screen.
I have been feeling the urge to harm myself. What can I do to stop myself?
Talking about your underlying problems to people who care about you can be helpful, but these situations often require outside help.
You could try the Samaritans helpline. Most of their work is done over the telephone, and they offer non-judgmental support. You can call them on 0800 726 666
You can also call Youthline on 0800 376 633. They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. They’ll listen to your problems and have training to help you with whatever you’re going through.
Lifeline New Zealand have a similar set-up to Youthline and Samaritans, and can be reached on 0800 543 345.
For further help, you can seek professional counselling. Most counsellors will have some experience in helping people recover from the urge to harm themselves, and some will be specialists.Your local CAB will have a list of counsellors in your area, or you could search the internet to find one.